In seeking to define ourselves we will more than likely be left with more questions than answers. Are the questions useful in themselves, even when they have no answers?
This depends entirely on what we do with those questions. Speaking from experience, investing years of my time and focus in frustration that I couldn't figure out why my journey happened the way it did; distracted me from a more healthy relationship with my past, and fully experiencing the now.
Did that mean taking inventory had been a complete waste of time? A harsh judgment of efforts that may not end in the result we were hoping for, is unnecessary and counterproductive. Where would civilization be if noone valued research that didn't bring conclusive evidence? The research must be done, and noted, for further reference. Research can push us forward, and give us direction.
Accepting that we will not always understand ourselves, is a big part of growth. We don't need to miss out on our potential for success, stuck in analyzing the choices that didn't work out. The usefulness of analyzing our past has a short shelf life. But finding inspiration for the days and weeks ahead, never goes out of date.
Like doing a puzzle. You establish a border that you can use as a reference to fill in the rest of the pieces.
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